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Develop the advanced sexual skills that will put you in the top 1% of men in the bedroom!
Starting Monday November 7th, join our six-month coaching programme to master your sexuality!
Empowerment
Do you ever struggle with feeling disempowered as a man in your life?
Confidence
Do you lack confidence, experience performance anxiety, or are generally unsure about your role in relationships and sex?
Power
Do you want to understand sex better and be more relaxed around sex as a man?
Connection
Do you want to attract and connect with the women you feel most drawn to in your life?
then read on…
Sexual Mastery for Men
November 2022 - April 2023
Did you know that:
Less < 10%
less than 10% of men are totally confident and relaxed in any sexual situation
80% of Men Worry
80% of men worry if their bed partner likes what they are doing
90% of Men Think
90% of men think that there is only one kind of orgasm to be had*
( * Statistics based on comments from men participating in courses with UltimateLovers.- com. )
Sound familiar?
Are you really experiencing the sex life you would really want for your life?
We are all sexual beings yet sex can be an area that men struggle to fully express themselves. In fact, when it comes to being a Nice Guy, all the patterns of our Nice Guy tend to unconsciously show up in the sexual arena leaving us feeling empty, frustrated and ultimately unfulfilled. In fact, at best, it is often a transactional affair - I’ll give you your orgasm, if you give me mine. And then there are the problems of…
Performance Anxiety.
Worrying about doing it right and satisfying your partner.
Erectile Dysfunction.
Not being able to get hard.
Premature Ejaculation.
Cumming too quickly.
Codependency.
We want sex, and have a deep desire to connect physically, intimately, sexually with our girlfriends, wives or partners, but we don't want to put them off us so we do our best to conform to what we think they might expect of us in the bedroom, or what we think is acceptable.
This plays out for so many men, both those who are experienced sexually and those with little experience.
So the problem is that our partners never get to experience the real version of us in the bedroom - the one they actually long for.
Instead they get the needy, flawed Nice Guy who either cares too much for them or lets his anger spill out, and who all in all, may promise much but deliver little.
It’s not surprising…
We were never taught about sex
Until NOW
IMAGINE SEX BEING AN…
Open
Connected
Horny
Pleasurable
Intimate
experience every time.
On this programme, you will learn…
Explore fantasies with
NO shame or embarrassment.
Discovery.
This programme is not about offering simple tips, tricks or techniques. The internet is full of them! Some may actually help men DO better in the bedroom.
But...
What if what you are doing is based on the wrong assumptions, beliefs, outlook and ideas?
This is almost always the case as society, our parents, families, friends and peers have conditioned us with erroneous cultural, medical and religious messages around sex and what it is supposed to be.
This programme is about a totally new paradigm…
Imagine having a deep connection and trust in your own body and penis in any sexual situation and experiencing a deep intimate connection, fun, excitement, exploration, joy and pleasure with a partner. And…
Delay ejaculation at will and last as long as you like
Experience greater pleasure and multiple orgasmic states
Build a healthy integrated relationship to sex
Feel more confident and empowered inside the bedroom and in other areas of your life
Feel stronger sexual vitality
This programme is a practical journey that will guide you to experience all of this, ultimately BEING a better lover.
Step out of the box.
Shift everything you have ever
Learned
Been Taught
or Heard
about sex and intimacy
Find Your Sex…
New Perspective.
Through group discussion, presentations, demonstrations, and coaching tools we will lead you through this transformational journey.
You will see your sexual experience and history of sex from different perspectives that help you grow out of any patterned behaviours that no longer serve you, as we guide you to a new expanded level of sexual experience, skill, wisdom and confidence to help you enjoy the best sex of your life.
Potency.
Hearing directly from women - you will learn what really turns women on and what they seek from a male lover as you embark on your own journey into your own sexuality and discover the keys to unlock your sexual potency and enjoy the best sex of your life.
If you have little experience sexually
or
You have a wealth of sexual experience
Either way you will gain new insights to sex, discover what you really want and what’s holding you back, how the Nice Guy shows up and its effect on the sexual experience and your partners desire for sex, and crucially learn how to transcend the Nice Guy and get him out of the bedroom to liberate your sexual experiences.
Dates:
Session 1: Monday November 7th
Session 2: Monday November 21st
Session 3: Monday December 5th
Session 4: Monday December 19th
Session 5: Monday January 9th
Session 6: Monday January 23rd
Session 7: Monday February 6th
Session 8: Monday February 20th
Session 9: Monday March 6th
Session 10: Monday March 20th
Session 11: Monday April 3rd
Session 12: Monday April 17th
About Your Course Presenter
This programme draws on the presenter’s own experience
of this journey over many years.
Rowan Andrews
Founder of No More Mr. Nice Guy® UK and the Breaking Free Bootcamp™
Workshop facilitator
Men’s coach
Couples relationship coach
About Rowan
Rowan is the founder of the No More Mr. Nice Guy® Men’s Group, one of the largest and most active men’s groups in the UK. He is an accredited No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, a workshop facilitator, men’s coach and couples relationship coach.
For more than 15 years Rowan has been helping private individuals, couples and groups, as well as businesses and organisations, to embrace the change necessary to elicit growth - personal, sexual, financial/economic and spiritual growth.
After being confronted with the limits his own Nice Guy tendencies were putting on his life, he began an intensive programme of recovery to break free and live a life of his own making.
His Journey
His exploration of the Nice Guy Syndrome led him to the USA to work with Dr Robert Glover, author of the book No More Mr. Nice Guy - A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life.
Returning home, Rowan saw the scale of the problem of the Nice Guy Syndrome in the UK and launched the No More Mr. Nice Guy® UK Men’s Group in 2017.
Since then he has had a particular focus on helping men who identify as ‘Nice Guy’s’, and supporting them in their recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome through one to one coaching, Men’s Groups, seminars and workshops. He is also a couples relationship coach, helping partners enjoy better sex and a greater depth of intimacy and connection.
Rowan says…
During Rowan’s personal journey he studied and practised a variety of ancient and contemporary sexual and spiritual practices and explored open and polyamorous relationship structures. Having had dozens and dozens of sexual experiences in that time, with women and men, become a BDSM ‘Master’, and facilitated workshops on sexuality and relationships, he has been bringing what he learned on his journey to his clients ever since.
Sex, the ultimate arena...
“Sex is like the final frontier for the ‘Nice Guy’. The bedroom, the ultimate arena in which the Nice Guy persona shows up and where he is, unconsciously, probably at his least confident, his weakest, his neediest, and often his least appealing."
It’s the Nice Guy...
“It’s the people-pleasing ‘Nice Guy’ persona that is responsible for low-grade, disconnected, transactional sex and which so often leads to disappointment, frustration and disconnection in relationships."
Who is the Nice Guy?
“He’s the pleaser between the sheets. Not really showing up as himself. Hoping to be accepted - not rejected - and thus too scared to really show himself sexually. An ultimately unattractive, unfulfilling and unfulfilled bed partner."
“The good news is that when men are truly willing to obliterate their conditioned identity, then they are ready to enjoy the best sex of their lives, for themselves and their partners.”
Testimonials
What People Are Saying…
“Rowan Andrews is one of those guys who will catch you by surprise. At first glance, you notice that he is warm, welcoming, and engaging - a great guy. But then wham, you catch the full force of his honed intuition, sharp intellect, and keen perceptiveness. As a coach, speaker, and leader, Rowan is in the top tier of professionals and a breath of fresh air from the same old stale routines and ill-prepared wannabes that you so often encounter in the field of personal development.”
— Dr. Robert Glover, USA
“I took the 2021 Sexual Mastery Course and at first was very apprehensive as to whether I could get any value from it.
At the age of 52 I was slightly stuck in my ways around sex after all many women tell me how good I am in bed so what could they teach me.
I couldn't be more wrong I learnt how to actually be more in touch with what I was feeling and then in turn please and be pleased by a woman from that more connected stand point.
One of my goals was not to keep ejaculating and before the course ended, I got to that place which I was so happy with and even though I know it is going to be a journey to get to a place where I feel I have full control over my ejaculation this was an awesome place to start.
For me this course was worth every penny and it taught me so much about sex and how we view sex from a closed place and miss out on the immense beauty and connection that we can achieve with sex.
If your considering doing this course and are on the fence I would say definitely do it, as it will open new doors to where your sex life could go
Thanks again for putting this together and thanks to all the guys on the group that were just so welcoming and non-judgemental about anything that came up.
Thank you!”
— EW, UK
“Rowan’s ability to cut through the noise and help you understand WHY you feel a certain way is extraordinary.
Getting out of one’s head and in touch with how feelings manifest in the body is one of the many techniques he employs; and he does all of this under a blanket of person-centred love and compassion that listens, embraces, and supports you on your journey.
I finish each session with an energy and a clarity that consistently propels me forwards.”
— SJ, UK
“I took part in the Sexual Mastery Course because I wanted to be a better sexual partner to a woman who is more sexually experienced than me.
As a committed lover, I wanted to deal with different issues that had plagued me from childhood and also wanted support in pursuing new things as well. In fact, I was already looking for resources to help me, but I brought my search to an end when I discovered the course, even though I had to overcome the initial feeling of awkwardness being part of an actual group.
The biggest benefit I got from the course was the realisation that I was not alone with my different issues. Whether it related to performance, delaying ejaculation, dominance or fulfilling deep desires, I found everyone else was in the same boat.
Normalising my own issues was the first step to developing them and that was an amazing breakthrough.
Thereafter, having extended access to experienced instructors and a mini-brotherhood meant that I could try different things and come back again and again with feedback, questions and challenges. And of course, hearing about other people's experiences benefitted me in ways that I didn't expect.
At first, my partner was concerned that I had taken the course as she thought it was weird. But after she personally experienced the progress I made, she was delighted that I had.
I know it might sound weird taking a course in sexual mastery. But for people who are always trying to improve themselves in every aspect of their lives, you can either spend your time scouring the web, reading articles etc and do everything in a silo... OR... you can just take the course.
My advice? Take the course!”
— FB, UAE
"Since attending the workshop with Rowan, I’ve become noticeably more attractive to women. I’m more comfortable and confident around them, and I’m finding more and more opportunities to invite them into my life.”
— CC, UK
Sexual Mastery Pricing
£800
Option One
Full access to the Sexual Mastery six-month online group coaching programme, including membership of the WhatsApp group chat and any programme materials.
£1,097
Option two
Includes all of Option One plus a discounted place at the next No More Mr. Nice Guy® Breaking Free Bootcamp™, the transformational live event workshop in London (next one occurs on the weekend of October 29th-30th 2022. (Option two pricing represents a discount of £100 as the usual stand alone price for the Bootcamp is £397).
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What is this sexual mastery programme all about?
It's a six month coaching programme and it's all about becoming a better lover. It's actually about mastering the self to enable men to have really great sex. So men are going to be presented with a lot of new ideas, tools, and concepts and presentations that will help them learn how to be better lovers and to experience a different kind of sex.
Sex that's better than just heading towards a few seconds of an orgasmic experience, but getting into the realms of deeper orgasmic pleasure and connection with their partners. And this is going to make a profound difference in men's lives because it'll open up a whole world of sex and intimacy to them that's currently not available.
Q: Is this programme for me?
This programme is for you if you want to have better sex than you’re having right now, or if the sex you’re having leaves you dissatisfied and unfulfilled.
This program is also for you if you are interested in creating a new sexual paradigm where there is no need for performance anxiety, and where you will lay the foundations for experiencing a new and vastly more fulfilling, more pleasurable, more intimate and connected way of engaging in sex.
It’s for you if you are uncertain about whether your bed partners like what you’re doing in the bedroom.
It’s for you if you have erectile issues, want to improve your sexual stamina, worry about your capacities as a lover or are coping with shame or guilt around the topic of sex.
It’s for you if you would like to experience different kinds or ecstatic and orgasmic experiences than what you and most people (men and women) out there know.
It’s for you if you want to discover, embrace and communicate your true sexual desires.
It’s for you if you have already tried other things out there to improve your sexual skills but it wasn’t enough.
It's for you whether or not you are single right now.
Q: Why is this programme so different to everything I’ve tried already?
What makes this programme different from other programmes out there is that in this programme, we are going to debunk the unconscious ideas that we have about sex and intimacy that most of us have been conditioned to believe from an early age, ideas that makes us feel insecure, unsafe, anxious about our performance, and incapable of experiencing the fullness of sexual pleasure that we are all able to, and replace this with a new sexual paradigm that is much more fulfilling, connected, pleasurable, for both you and your bed partners.
You will discover a completely different way to experience sex, with the tools and guidance in the transformational work necessary to integrate this in your life.
A lot of what you may find online is merely about offering you techniques and tools that tap into a feeling of inadequacy, of needing to perform during sex of needing to have more stamina or a harder erection, or of making sure your partner experiences more intense orgasms. These tools and techniques build on what we think of as good sex.
And because in our society a proper sexual education is lacking, our beliefs and ideas of what constitutes good sex are based on what we see in the movies and porn, what our parents and teachers told us and what our peers shared with us. These beliefs are very limited and mistaken at best, very damaging to our emotional health and self-worth at worst.
Often, these tools and techniques build on top of an unquestioned belief that sex is performance-based and first and foremost about pleasing your bed partner. And even though these will sometimes make you a little bit of a better lover, these are still based on erroneous belief systems that will not enable you to fully start owning your sexuality, let go of performance anxiety, shame and guilt, or to experience the depth, liberation and ecstasy that real, connected sex has to offer.
Q: So how would my sex life be different after this programme (what’s in it for me?)
A deep connection and trust in your body and penis in any sexual situation
Last as long as you’d like
Delay ejaculation at your will
Greater pleasure and experience multiple orgasmic states
A healthy integrated relationship to sex
Feel more confident and empowered in the bedroom and in other areas of your life
Feel stronger sexual vitality
Greater intimacy with your partner
You’ll be shown that by having ‘real sex’ you’ll not only improve your sex life, but also expand your experience of yourself and your ability to have better, deeper relationships.
Q: What is real sex then?
Real sex is about showing up authentically as you, no-one else. Showing up with all your neediness and insecurities as well as your desires and power, rather than playing out a character or playing out how we think we should be in bed that we’ve learned from the distorted messages we’ve received from the world around us.
Most of us are unaware of our beliefs about sex. The truth is they are more likely to reflected others’ beliefs about what sex should be than they are to reflect our own deep truth. When such a gap exists between how we think we should behave sexually and our deepest desires, there’s going to be a problem. And that’s painful. Unsatisfying. Unfulfilling.
So the better we are at understanding our own sexual desire, shedding our shame (even if we cannot recognise our shame currently, it’s there, under the surface) and being our true selves sexually and the better able we are to communicate our truth to our partners, the better and more ‘real’ sex becomes.
Real sex is about pleasure, not performance. By allowing pleasure to be the driver of our sexuality, rather than “am I doing it right? Is my partner enjoying this? Am I good enough?” or whatever other performance-based thoughts might be arising, we open up a whole new world of sex and sexual pleasure and fulfilment. In short, real sex is all about the body and nothing to do with the mind!
Q: It’s not just about sex, then?
It starts with finding out what's important for you, what it is that you really desire? That’s the first step. And what we've seen a lot of men do, is that they have a sort of idea of what they would like sexually, but it doesn't really go to the core of what's important for them as a lot of men had a lot of shame around this topic and they don't even know that well, what they want, but even if they do it's difficult for them to own this desire.
And by also helping you on this path of owning desires, of communicating these desires, that will immensely change your sexual dynamics as well with your partner or with a partner that you're going to meet, because you'll be confident in what you like and what you don’t, and that will make a big difference.
And also there’s the issue of safety, you have to create safety, and we'll be teaching how to create that safety, and to play sexually within a framework of safety, so you can really allow yourself to do what feels great for you and your partner.
Owning desires, debunking belief systems, working with shame and guilt etc, and doing all of that in a safe way, that’s what it’s about. That is the pathway you’ll be taken on.
Q: I don’t have a sexual partner, will that be a problem? Can I still join?
Absolutely. No problem. The good thing about this programme is that you can join whether or not you have a girlfriend. The sexual and intimate connection that you can experience with someone else can only be as deep as the connection you have to yourself and your own body.
You use your own bodily sensations as an antenna to tune into your bed partners body. That is what sexual embodiment means and what this programme is all about. Whether or not you have a girlfriend in this programme, doesn’t matter. We will be guiding you to connect deeper with your sexual desires, to embrace, own and communicate these, and how to connect and stay present with your body during sexual play, magnifying your capacity for sexual pleasure while letting go the blockages that stand in the way, like shame or performance anxiety, and replacing it with more confidence, joy and sexual freedom.
This is a deeply personal process that is unique for you, and in which we will guide you. Of course Rowan will be giving you all the tools you need to invite any woman into a new sexual paradigm with you so you can enjoy real sex together, but these will only work when you also go through this personal transformation yourself.
Q: Will I be better at dating/connecting romantically/intimately with women?
This programme is a transformational journey in which you will learn how to deeply connect with your own body and what’s important to you in the areas of sex and intimacy, and how to own and communicate these to others.
By letting go of erroneous belief systems of how you, your sexuality, sex and intimacy ought to be, and embracing and embodying new truths that are uniquely true to you, your confidence will grow as you will feel and experience that you, as the sexual human being that you are, warts and all, are exactly the way you should be.
This almost certainly will also make you feel more confident and empowered outside of the bedroom in other areas of your life. When you know what’s really important to you in the areas of sex and intimacy, and you’re not afraid to share this with the outside world, meeting and dating with women will become more straightforward, honest and - very likely - more fun too.
Q: Connecting with my own body? Is that really necessary? (sounds boring, I want sex with real women!!)
You will never be able to feel your partner better than you can feel yourself. So if you want to experience real sex, and deeply fulfilling sexual pleasure, connecting with your own bodily sensations is the key. Pleasure really is of the body, not of the mind.
Many men are focused on their partner’s pleasure. “Am I doing it right? Is this what (s)he likes?” This often becomes a mind game, where we - men and women alike - are trying to work out and anticipate what’s going on in our partner’s head and what we think they want us to do. This not only causes a disconnection between you and your partner, it also makes for boring and repetitive sex. Basically, 9 times out of 10 we’ll be doing exactly what we have done before, based on what seemed to work in the past. The result is two people have sex by themselves together, being more in their heads and sometimes in their genitals, but not present in their bodies.
By learning how to really connect and stay present with your body, you will be able to use your body as an antenna to tune into your partner’s body, and that is when the magic happens. That is when sex changes from a mind game, a chess game (if I do this, then (s)he will do/think/feel, that….) to an intuitive sexual dance, sexual art, where sexual energy moves unobstructed through two bodies. And once you have gotten your first glimpses of what actually is possible in the sexual realm, you will never want to go back to how it was before.
Connecting with your body boring? Not at all. To be more precise: it is the most exciting thing in the world. And we are going to help you rewire your brain and body to do this.
Q: I am homosexual/pansexual/bisexual etc. Is this programme for me?
It sure is. Even though we’ll be referring mostly to heterosexual examples in our language, we are really talking about universal, not gender-based, principles. Connecting with your own body, your own sexuality, connecting sexually and intimately with another human being, the science of arousal, creating safety, consent etc, it doesn’t matter whether you are attracted to cis- or transgender people.
Having said that, this programme is for men only (people who have a penis and were born with a penis) and we want to ring-fence that so that this is a container for men to do their work together on this subject, as men.
Q: What are we going to do exactly during these 5 months?
For 6 months, we'll be meeting every two weeks for two to two and a half hours with the same group of men. As we’ll be meeting with the same group of men during this time, you will get to know each other well. This will strengthen the safe container in which we we'll be presenting and talking about ideas and concepts that will be new to you, and the way that you approach sex. And also we'll be having discussions. Sometimes coaching, and you'll be learning through the conversations and discussions that we have. It will be as much a process of unlearning and letting go of erroneous beliefs, letting go of blockages that prevent you from experiencing real sex, as it is about presenting you with new ideas and information.
It's about going through a kind of unlearning process as well, unlearning the ways that we've learned to have sex.
You will do (non-sexual) exercises with each other during our meetings, that we will share about and discuss afterwards with the whole group. We'll also be giving you homework and practices that you can do and take home and take to the bedroom on your own, with or without a partner. We'll be debriefing those and in the next session. And that will be how the learning goes, how men will receive the wisdom that's in this programme.
We’ll be inviting women/female assistants during some meetings. They will share their perspective on what real sex is, what they are longing for from men and during sexual interactions, and teach about the female anatomy and pleasure potential.